Wednesday, February 1, 2012
My letter to Sylvia:
Sylvia (16) want's to get emancipated. She want's to get emancipated because she says she has "a lack of freedom, a college boyfriend, and is forced to share a room with her sister." Sylvia wants to get emancipated. Legally independent from her parents for these reasons.
Although this is what Sylvia wants to do; I have to disagree with her choices. Sylvia needs to be financially independent and have a stable job before getting emancipated. She's going to have to pay for food, rent, school etc. Plus you can't get a job with a high school degree that can pay for all of those needs. Chances are, Sylvia also still needs her family's support. She's still young and needs support emotionally, financially etc. Getting emancipated is also very hard to do. It's a long legal process that can be lengthy and complicated. I really don't think it's worth it.
My opinion and advice for Sylvia is too just wait. Don't get too ahead of yourself. If this is what you really want then just wait until your 18. Only 2 years. Sylvia should just try to make compromises with her family and work on communication and letting them know her needs. She should try getting a job and learn how to financially support herself before doing anything drastic like emancipation. If her college boyfriend really loves her and wants whats best for her then he will wait for her and support her no matter the circumstances.
In conclusion. I think Sylvia's reasoning to be emancipated is poor. Unless your parentals are abusive or neglect you, I would just stay put. Deal with your issues and move on. Poor kids in Africa would love to share a room with their sister/have a lack of freedom and a college boyfriend. Be grateful for the things in your life that you do appreciate. Sylvia needs to be mature and wait. In closing it is what best of Sylvia and her future.
Monday, January 30, 2012
Friday, January 27, 2012
Have you ever had a problem with your sibling(s)? Do you have a problem telling them to not touch your stuff? Do they break your stuff? Are you frustrated and want to yell at them? Well from breaking stuff to yelling emancipation may be the answer.
Emancipation is pretty much divorcing your parents from you at a young age and living on your own. Your need for food, shelter, clothing and money become something that is necessary. Your parents may become worried but just get a place to stay and the worrying will cease. Just maybe you can live with a family member till you get a steady job. Steady jobs are hard to find but when you find one you need to work hard to keep it.
There is a girl named Sylvia who has a problem with her sister. She is sixteen and thinks it better if she got emancipated. Her sister doesn’t know what personal means. And is always getting into Sylvia’s stuff. Sylvia’s sister needs to learn the boundaries and Sylvia needs to make a smart choice.
Should Sylvia get emancipated or not? She should at least try to straighten things out with her sister. If her sister doesn’t agree. She can just ask to be moved or move in with an aunt before even considering emancipation. Emancipation is a big question and sixteen is not an educated age I know. But if Sylvia sets parameters and her sister doesn’t follow them then she should consider emancipation.
Loss of family ,loss of shelter and loss of money are all downsides to being emancipated. Emancipation should be for the grown up to decide. Sylvia is only sixteen and she thinks she knows everything. Sylvia is ruining her life and the life of her family by being emancipated. So from lack of personal freedom to her age(16) to not enough personal space Sylvia is left to decide whether emancipation is a good choice or not.
Thursday, January 26, 2012
Please take this into consideration Sylvia that there are consequences to emancipating from your home. First of all, you don’t have a supportive job you can thrive off of. Also you have to be 18 in order to move out, and buy/rent a home. Finally you don’t have a car to get your self back to where you are going to live. That is why you should not emancipate, you don’t have a high enough income, you aren’t 18, and you don’t own a car.
If you want to emancipate, you need more than minimum wage of $8.50 per hour. Also you need a high school diploma to have higher paying job , but you aren’t even out of high school. Finally you need to work Mon-Fri full time, but again you cant work on week days because of school reserving those days. That is why you should not move out, your income is not high enough to support you.
You also aren’t at the the age of 18. The reason you should be 18 is because you are considered an adult. Also in order to legally own or rent a home you must be 18. And usually by 18, you are out of high school by then, so you can work full time and own a home. That is why you should not emancipate from your home.
Although you may have a drivers licences, you don’t own a car. Cars can be expensive to buy or maintain. Even when you manage to buy a car, you have to pay a certain amount of money depending on the car to register it, and periodic renewal of the tabs. Also you have to pay for gas which is getting quite expensive. That is why you should not emancipate from you home, if you can’t afford a car you can’t afford to move out.
Those are the reason should not emancipate. You don’t have a high enough income to support you. You aren’t at the age that will benefit you most. And you lack a car to get you from place to place. So please think this through before doing so, than regretting it later.
Have you thought about the responsibilities? Getting emancipated and living on your own at 16 us a big deal. Sylvia don’t get emancipated from your parents because your relationship with your parents will be ruin, having to provide for yourself, your boyfriend won’t provide for you, and keeping up in school will be hard.
First, Sylvia don’t get emancipated because you’ll lose any good chance of having a good relationship with your parents. If you do this it will probably upset your parents and make them feel like you don’t care about them anymore. After getting signed away from them they most likely won’t want anything to do with you. Do you really want to risk loosing them? You will lose your relationship with your parents if you get emancipated.
Second, getting emancipated means you will have to provide for yourself. You won’t have your parents there to help you with everything, you’d be all on your own. Are you ready to live on your own, make your own money, pay the bills, and having to do everything yourself? Sylvia you won’t have anyone to always be there for you anymore. Having to provide for yourself is all apart of getting emancipated.
Third, even though you have a boyfriend, doesn’t mean he will always be there for you. He is in college and you’re in high school. College guys aren’t that trust worth!! Any guy is really not that trust worth. Also you’re 16 and he’s old! Don’t move out and depend on a guy until you’re married. At least your parents are more trust worthy. Just because you think you can depend on him now doesn’t mean you will always be able to. Don’t get emancipated because you think you have a trust worthy boyfriend in college.
Also, getting emancipated means you will have to keep up on your school alone. Isn’t getting school down hard enough with your parents around to help you and remind you to do it? Think about how hard it’s going to be to do it all alone. Getting emancipated Sylvia means you won’t have anyone there to help you with your school.
Sylvia, you shouldn’t get emancipated from your parents because of all the responsibilities. First getting emancipated will probably ruin your relationship with your parents. Second, you will have to provide for yourself. Third, just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean he will always be therefor you. Also, keeping up in school, on your own, will be hard. Sylvia have you really thought this through?
- A Friend
Dilbert, your boyfriend!
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
You should not move out from your home. You have friends and family that care about you very much, including myself. The world would be a confusing place to be in without proper guidance. You also have many more opportunities here at home with us.
First, many people know you, and you’re a kind person to everyone here in town. To me your one of my best friends, we have known eachother since pre-school. I couldn’t even think about not being able to see you again.
Secondly, the world is a confusing place Sylvia, and I wouldn’t want to see you go through it alone. It might look simple, but it’s really complicated. If you think you can tackle it on your own without the proper guidance, things can turn ugly.
Thirdly, things here at home are not so bad. Your friends and family love you and couldn’t bare to see you leave. You may have to share a room with your sister, and follow certain household rules, and make things work with a college boyfriend, but please try and make the best of what you have now.
I hope you can make the right decision for yourself. Your friends cant bare to see you leave our lives. The world is a very strange place for a young woman to endure. Also, things here at home can be much better than they may seem. Please make the right decision.
~ A Friend
Don't Leave, Sylvia!
The best parties in town, complete with boys, food, and at no cost to you. Sylvia, if you leave your home you won't have access to any of these things. I know you are feeling restricted from your boyfriend, and upset at having to share a room with you sister, among other things, but all this could be to your benefit. Sylvia, even though you feel like a prisoner at home, you should stay there because you have plenty of food, clothes to steal form your sister, boys in your neighborhood, and a house for parties.
The first reason that you should stay at home, Sylvia, is because you have healthy food. Although you may think that you can live off of cheap fast food having free, and healthy, food will help to keep you from feeling sick and tired. A dietitian from Harvard conducted a national experiment and recorded the results in his book. “Those who eat at McDonalds less than three times a week will live long and healthy lives.” (The Art of Fast Food 107). Having home cooked meals will save you from having to eat fast food, which can make you sick. Sylvia, even though you dislike your home, you should stay for the food.
A second reason for staying at home, Sylvia, is because of all the clothes you can steal from your sister. Sharing a room means you can also share a wardrobe, which in turn means twice as many clothes, which can be very useful. A fashion expert, Resemee Aljervaunhume, states on her website; “Girls who take clothing from younger, less fashionable, delinquents have the rare opportunity to expand their cultural taste, a skill that can later be useful in certain careers.” (The Un-Fashionable 4). Though your younger sister's clothes may seem un-salvageable, if you are able to use them it could become useful one day when you're looking for job, this wont be available if you leave home. Even though staying at home means staying with your sister, it also means you have your sister's clothing to wear, which is why you should stay, Sylvia.
Another reason why you should stay at home, Sylvia, is because of all the boys in your neighborhood. Although you may miss your boyfriend, you have plenty of boys nearby. According to a local census; “65% of the population of Pillsburry consists of 16 to 20 year old males.” (2011 Census). Because of all the males nearby in your age range, you do not even need to think about your boyfriend. Sylvia, having a boyfriend miles away may seem tough, but if you stay at home you will always have a boy close at hand.
The final reason that you should stay at home, Sylvia, is because of the party space. If you are at home you will have the perfect place to invite friends over to for a great time, without the cover charges. “Married couples leave their home on vacation every one to two months.” (Algorian Travel Institute). Couples like to get out of the house, especially married ones, which leaves it open for you to host parties. If you stay at home, Sylvia, you will have a free location to entertain guests at every few months.
My friend Sylvia, I know you feel like your parents are oppressing you, but if you consider that you have plenty of healthy food to eat, your younger sister's clothes to borrow, plenty of boys nearby, and a free party haven, I would encourage you to stay at your current address as long as you can.
First, because you have no source of income Sylvia, you should not become emancipated from your home. You have no job, no savings, no allowance, and your boyfriend barely makes it by supporting himself, you would not be able to even buy a pack of gum. Just last year you said, "I am so broke I can't even afford a .99 cent burger!" Since you haven't come into any money since then, what makes you think you can afford that burger now? Sylvia, you should not become emancipated from your home because you have no source of income.
Second, Sylvia, you should not become emancipated from your home because my parents will never let us each other again. My parents are over-protective and try to control every aspect of my life, cutting out every "bad" influence. When my parents heard about you considering emancipation, they told me if you did they would "never let me see you again." My parents believe you would be a terrible influence on me if you were ever to become emancipated. Please Sylvia, because we would never see each other again, do not become emancipated from your home.
Additionally, you should not seek emancipation from your home Sylvia because you have less than two years with them anyways. You are almost 17, if you have survived this long, you can survive less than two years. As Edmund Forest once said, "If you have made it through all these years, what is a few more days of torture when you know freedom is near?" Same concept applies, you you have made it this far, go all the way, because freedom (without a price) is near. Sylvia, you have less than two years, so you should not eek emancipation from your home.
Lastly, because you will have no where to live, you should not become emancipated from your home Sylvia. If you have no where to live, you will be living on the streets, and that would be incredibly dangerous. 65% of all females living on the street alone end up being kidnapped. Living on the streets could prove to be fatally dangerous for you. Sylvia, you should not become emancipated from your home because you will have no where to live.
In conclusion, as you best friend Sylvia, I advise you against seeking emancipation from your home. You have no money coming to you. Sylvia, we would never be able to see each other again. You have less than two years left living at home. You have no house, no where to stay. Emancipation is not a wise choice Sylvia, stay at home and appreciate what you've got before it's gone all together.
Want to be emancipated? To be emancipated is to kick yourself out of the house, by law, when you are a minor. Well, in Sylvia’s case, she should forget about being emancipated. It would be best for Sylvia to stay home because she has a low percentage of finding a job and home, it’s very dangerous being out in the world, and it would grow her patience to stay home.
One reason Sylvia should consider not to emancipate herself at 16 is because she would have a difficult time trying to find a job and apartment. According to a survey conducted by the J.F.B. (Job Finding Bureau), 90% of employers won’t accept minors to work for them. And the 10% that allows persons under the age of 18 to work, the punk employee will only receive 50% of what adults would normally earn. And with the prices of apartments rising, it would be next to impossible to have enough money to pay for the rent, water bill, electrical bill, and have money left over for food and recreation! If you ask me, Sylvia would either turn out to be a really skinny kid with a roof over her head or a well-fed hobo who lives in a cardboard box. So, Sylvia would be better off not leaving home because of the crazy job and apartment search she would go through.
Another important reason why Sylvia should stay home is because of the potential dangers she could encounter. The IRS is one of the most dangerous group of people. They love money so much that they leave nasty phone calls and emails for fun. And when they’re blood-thirsty for it, they go to great lengths and personally rob you of your money with their special platagator (an extremely dangerous animal that is a platypus mixed with an alligator). The number one place they like to go to is the poor emancipated kids’ homes who are barely making a living. To avoid this dangerous encounter, Sylvia should rethink of being emancipated.
Lastly, Sylvia needs to reconsider being emancipated because she can learn a life-long lesson of patience. What do you get when you cross a small bedroom with an annoying sibling? You get patience. If Sylvia moves out, she will have everything to herself. And if she is by herself, she won’t need to exercise her patience. But if she stays home, Sylvia will be able to extend her patience from her time she spends being bugged by her sister. A benefit for building patience when your young is that 90% of people who exercise their patience will usually get through many more situations than people who have little patience. So, it’s best to build patience by staying home and not being emancipated.
All in all, it would be in Sylvia’s best interest to not be emancipated at 16 for many reasons. If she is trying to get a job and rent an affordable apartment, she will have a very low chance of getting what she needs. Also, it’s safer to be protected by your parents from two deadly creatures. Furthermore, it would be best if Sylvia grew her patience with her sister. Now, it’s up to Sylvia to make a decision. Hopefully, it’s a wise one...
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
The first reason for you to stay is that your boyfriend's college career is going to interfere with your relationship. If you two are living together, then he will have difficulties balancing his studies and taking care of you. Your boyfriend will either spend more time focusing on school or focusing on you. Either way, one element will be partially neglected, so his ambition or your relationship will suffer. You shouldn't get emancipated and leave home because you boyfriend's college situation will compromise your relationship.
Another reason for you to stay home is that your parents are more important than your boyfriend. Boyfriends are easily replaced; parents are not. Getting emancipated will separate you from your parents legally and emotionally. In a sense, you are telling them that you don't need them. While, after breaking up with your boyfriend, you could find a new one, the bond between parents and their child is not so easily replaced. You need to stay home, Sylvia, because your relationship with your parents is more important than you relationship with your boyfriend.
In addition, you shouldn't leave home because you aren't prepared for real life. Things could happen that would undermine your plans. For example, if your boyfriend's grades became low, he could lose a large portion of his student aid funds. Without sufficient funds, you may be forced to find a job which is very strenuous at 16. If he were to drop out, both of you would be checkmated into eking out a substandard living. Don't leave home, Sylvia, because you aren't prepared for the twists and turns of life.
Finally, you shouldn't leave home because it is a good place for you to be. Your family loves and cares for you. You are annoyed by living in the same room as your little sister but imagine life without her. You would be very lonely at your boyfriend's place while he is in college. You need people who care about you, not just one person you care about. So stay home, Sylvia, because home is where you belong.
To sum up, you should stay home for now because your boyfriend's pursuit of higher education will only hurt your relationship, your parents are more important than your relationship, you can't possibly be ready for independent life, and home is where you belong. Your boyfriend's situation in college will complicate you relationship with him if it isn't complicated first. Also, the relationship you have with your parents needs to be prioritized above your romantic relationship. You aren't prepared to stand and face real life yet. Most importantly, your home is a great place for you to be. You shouldn't have to change yourself to grow up; instead, respond to the changes around you at a steady rate.